KDChi sister blogs about loving KDChi & supporting other orgs...
Wednesday, September 8, 2010 written by Amanda Loredo
Greek life.
I believe it's a privilege. Not everyone can join a Greek-lettered organization.
Despite some of the drama I dealt with as an undergrad at my chapter, and even the childish things still going on because people can't move on, I LOVE being a sister of Kappa Delta Chi. Before I transfered to Texas State I had chosen a roommate, a friend from high school, who was already attending Texas State. She was in a different organization, and though she tried recruiting me, I decided that her organization wasn't right for me. One of the first people I met in San Marcos was this girl Angel, she was in SLG. She was the sweetest person and I found such an amazing friend in her. Though I loved her, I didn't feel like rushing SLG would have been the right choice for me either. I found comfort and peace with the ladies of Kappa Delta Chi and really wanted to rush. I was invited to closed rush and eventually initiated.
Joining KDChi didn't make me stop being friends with the people I knew in other organizations. I've always been a social person, and I knew I had friends before KDChi, and I'd have friends after KDChi who weren't my sorority sisters. It's just how I think. In my tenure as an undergraduate active sister I met LOTS of people. Greeks, non-Greeks, sisters and ladies in other organizations. I have a wide variety of personalities in my group of friends, and I love it! I love diversity. Most people who know me, are aware of the fact that I will ALWAYS say what I feel. I don't mean to hurt people's feelings, but if telling the truth makes someone else unhappy, then that's their problem if they are unable to handle the truth.
Earlier today, my facebook status read: "Amanda Loredo can't make it to San Marcos to watch Kdx Omicron in Tx State showcase so I'm gonna go to UTSA's and support my Chi chapter sisters and the SLA Senoritas =)"
Shortly after this status I got a text message that said "why you endorse the competitor?" Maybe it's just me, but I don't think that sororities actually ever really 'compete'. See, I believe that a lot of organizations are similar in the sense that they:
1. provide a social experience
2. do some kind of community service
3. strive for academic success
BUT, I don't think that any two organizations are the same or try to recruit the same type of person. I think that every Greek-lettered organization provides a unique experience through their own secret and private rituals and traditions. If I had a little sister, yes, I would try to recruit her for KDChi first because I LOVE what Kappa Delta Chi has offered me. I am so blessed that I have met some of my best friends through the sorority, however, if my little sister REALLY wanted to rush a different organization that she felt was a better fit for her, I would support that decision 100%. I don't have a little [biological] sister, but if I did, I am absolutely positive that's the way I would handle the situation.
To me, it is mind-boggling how so many greeks are unable to support one another. It seems as though we only go to each other's service events to support a philanthropy so that we aren't "that" organization that doesn't donate to someone's service cause. But I don't see why we can't support each other in every aspect. I think it's fake to help out an organization for their service project and then say things like "I hope they don't get any girls to pledge this semester". I can't seem to grasp this concept. Within the Latina sorority experience, I hope that EVERY organization has the opportunity to grow. Whether someone chooses KDChi or any other organization, I think the ability to organize as educated, professional women is important.
To the person who sent me that text, I explained to them that until we are able to support each other as organizations, with personal one-on-one issues aside, problems will always arise. The organizational gossip and event competition will continue and if we are constantly trying to out do one another, we will never be able to make a significant impact on our communities.
Before today my FB status was:
"I'm all about Greek Unity. I love my sorority, but I don't have time to be mad at other orgs just because they aren't the one I belong to. I got love for ALL greeks that I know. We ain't changing the world in a positive way by fighting. If you feel this, leave a comment with your org/initation semester/line name. Greek love"
I stand by this every day. I know that I've gained lots of friendships with people in other organizations, and even today, at the UTSA MGC showcase, I was visiting with my sorority at their table and other girls because I want to find out how they are doing, how their classes are going and how rush is for them. I treat girls in other organizations the way I would treat any KDX sister or non-Greek friend - with a genuine interest in how things are going for them.
Let's put the crazy belief that "we compete" for the same girls (because we really don't) behind us and just help build each other up. Imagine the amount of change we can affect by working together, and not trying to tear each other apart.
Peace. Love. Positivity.
Just my two-sense. =)
*Loredo*
To view the blog in it's entirety and also see the feedback she's received click here. There's also a link to her facebook page. This blog has been published courtesy of Amanda's Loredo, a KDChi sister from Texas State University and with her full permission.